People Helper Tools
Here are the notes and tools you need to help yourself and also to help others. All documents are in Adobe Reader PDF format. For a free Adobe Reader please visit www.adobe.com
Biblical Pattern for Reconciliation
What is the Biblical pattern for reconciliation? Recognize and take ownership of all your sin and failures (and confess
it as sin). Repent and change direction from your sin. Rebuild trust
that you have destroyed because of your sin. Reconcile on the basis of
healing from the hurts caused by the sin.
To read and study more download the document below. Biblical Pattern for Reconciliation LN 022411.pdf
Circles Of Responsibility
The
concept of “Circles of Responsibility” is one of the most powerful
biblical tools for working through conflict in any relationship. The
principle of circles of responsibility is one of the ways of God for dealing with conflict.
To read and study more download the document below.
Circles of Responsibility LN 120909.pdf
Correcting Unhealthy Anger
God-designed emotions are a gift. They were designed by God at creation and they were declared “good.” They add color to life like the multi-colored rainbow. They can make life rich and full, but...
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Correcting Unhealthy Anger LN 022908 LN.pdf
Fair Communication Rules
Every
relationship is bound to have conflicts which may include an argument
or fight. This includes churches, schools, businesses and
families – sons, daughters, sons-in-law, daughters-in-law.
Forgiveness Part I - Anger
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Forgiveness Part I Anger LN 051611.pdf
Forgiveness Part II - Revenge
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Forgiveness Part II Revenge LN 051611.pdf
Forgiveness Part III - Memories
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Forgiveness Part III Memories LN 051611.pdf
Freedom From Perfectionism
Behind many of today's domestic tragedies lies a socially acceptable behavior pattern that is overlooked by most, even Christians. Most all long term emotional pain has been caused by this one negative personality characteristic. There are few Christian qualities that get confused more than the qualities of diligence, excellence, sacrifice, and correctness as shown up in perfectionism.
Perfectionism is often commented on by others as an admirable trait. These comments feed perfectionism in others.
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Perfectionism LN 052311.pdf
How To Deal With Unresolved Conflict With Parents
In and out of special schools for kids with behavioral problems; literally thousands of dollars spent on Mark's rehabilitation; this kid was 17 when he came to Living Foundation Ministries for counseling. He was very smart but failing most of his classes. Mark's mother was very controlling, critical, displayed little or no respect, always putting her son down, she had been a teacher and married a legal professional who was gone a lot. Mother and son fought verbally and sometimes physically. Mark's dad finally rented him (Mark) an apartment and lived with him. Mark reported he hated his mother.
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How to Deal with Unresolved Conflict with Parents LN 013111.pdf
How To Gain Emotional Freedom Introduction: On February 1, 2003, the Space Shuttle, Columbia, disintegrated over Texas during re-entry into the earth’s atmosphere with the loss of all seven crew members, shortly before it was scheduled to conclude its 28th mission. Of all of Columbia’s debris that was scattered over Texas, Louisiana and Arkansas, the one thing officials wanted most to recover was the “black box” or flight recorder. By analyzing it, they hoped to determine what went wrong before it blew up. God has designed a “flight recorder” called the heart (lit. mind). All of life’s events, thoughts, emotions, are recorded there. Our task is to go inside the heart (core belief system) and determine what is working and what is not working and adjust or correct what is not working for us. Usually what is not working well for us is our negative emotions.
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How To Heal After A Mate's Affair
There is no deeper wound in a marriage than an affair. Adultery potentially undoes the ideal relationship that God designed for
a married man and woman. Marriage is a social institution designed by God. It is not a Christian institution.
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How To Heal After Mate's Affair LN 051611.pdf
How To Heal From Spiritual and Religious Abuse
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Religious Abuse 072108 LN.pdf
How To Live With A Self-Centered Person
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How to Live with a Self-Centered Person 1105007.pdf
How To Rebuild From Failure
It would be great if after we became Christians we stopped making mistakes, failing or sinning. The sad reality is that we still sin, fail and make mistakes. This reality can be disappointing and discouraging for many new believers. They may leave the faith and state that it did not work for them. (You’re not alone.) The Apostle Paul battled with this sin principle and failure long after he became a believer.
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How To Rebuild From Failure LN 052311.pdf
How To Respond To A Passive Angry Person
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How to Respond to Passive Angry Person 121707.pdf
How To Use The Tool Of Journaling
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Journaling 092906 LN.pdf
Pornography
In
the openness of the 1970s, pornography was viewed as harmless and even
beneficial. In less than fifteen years the number of rapes doubled. 64%
of Christian men (in the church) struggle with sex addiction or sexual
compulsion, pornography, compulsive masturbation, secret sexual
activities. 25% had affairs (sexual intercourse), 14% had sexual
contact short of intercourse. 25% have abused alcohol or drugs; one
third have not reached out to anyone for help because of embarrassment.
Nearly every book in the New Testament commands us to avoid sexual
impurity.
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Pornography 2-17-10.pdf
Reasoning Behind Suicide
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Reasoning behind Suicide 110507.pdf
Reducing Anger In Children
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Reducing Anger in Children - Web LN 031308.pdf
Restoring Lost Identity
Three major losses took place the moment Adam and Eve disobeyed God and ate the fruit that He clearly told them not to eat. God warned them of the results if they did (Gen. 3:1-7). Satan instantly accomplished the biggest robbery in human history. By succeeding in getting them to sin, he stole their sense of personal worth, their purpose in life and their identity. In the first century there were believers who attempted to get their identity validated by their association with certain people (I Cor. 1:12). God has restored the believer’s true identity, not through other people, but through his relationship with Jesus Christ (Gal. 2:20; Phil. 1:21; Col. 3:3).
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Restoring Lost Identity LN 011409.pdf
Traps To Avoid When Choosing A Mate
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Traps to Avoid 021709 LN.pdf
Ten Counseling Tips
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Ten Counseling Tips w TOC 9-13-10.pdf
What are Five Basic Aspects of Biblical Counseling?
Most people believe that counseling is giving information to people. But biblical counseling involves at least five basic aspects.
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Five Aspects of Biblical Counseling LN 120409.pdf
What are Five Benefits Believers Have to Work Through Problems In Living?
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What Are Five Benefits Believers Have To Work Through Problems In Living LN 120209.pdf
What are Four Characteristics of a Biblical Counselor?
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What are Four Characteristics of a Biblical Counselor LN 120209.pdf
Why Does God Allow Problems?
The number one question we tend to ask when a major problem or crisis strikes us personally or someone close to us is, “why”? That’s a very normal response. It is one of the first issues addressed in both the Old and the New Testaments.
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Why Does God Allow Problems LN 120209.pdf
Why Should Counselors be People of Holiness and Integrity?
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Counselors People Of Integrity 030306 LN.pdf